To see the world through someone ele’s eyes

I try to see the positive and beauty in everything, having a chronic illness doesn’t change that except it may inhibit the degree in which you see beauty on a really bad day. It also forces you to search for beauty when you just cant seem to get out of your bed, or function due to your illness, I couldn’t understand a acquaintance ability to see everything so dark, so miserable, so unhappy, so lonely, so angry, so bitter. There distrust in humans, and hatred towards all, it didn’t make sense to me, because this person had been blessed with wonderful gifts, no financial issues, no health issues, but also very alone. isolated in his own world of hatred. His pride and joy wasn’t anything I could have imagined, it was how weapons he had, how he could kill at any moment and the consequences, well that didn’t matter either, He would just take his own life.

So Here comes Kelly to the rescue, I want this person to see the gifts he has received, the beauty of the world. I knew I couldn’t force him to see through my eyes, but maybe I could lead him to see some beauty. He grew up with loving parents, a wonderful career, early retirement. And artistic.

We went out to lunch, which is not on common for me to do with people from my support groups, we were in line and I saw a beautiful women who was elderly and had had a stroke, I went to get her chair to sit, it was obvious she was frail. So I went got her a chair. My acquaintance was appalled, couldn’t believe I would go out of my way to help a stranger, while she couldn’t speak, her smile said it all.

As we were eating the waitress accidently spilled melted butter on this persons lap, apologized but walked away. I could see the rage in his eyes, He called her every name in the book. He also has taken a concealed weapons license to another level and carry’s a gun one on each side. and will avoid any place that doesn’t allow guns. It was just for protection, so he said. I went to get a wet cloth to help him with his jean because he was going to continue getting angrier. That wasn’t enough, he wanted her in trouble, fired, anything to make her pay for her accident, so I went to the manager to try to calm the situation and told him what had happened, but also was clear this was a accident. The manager came over and apologized and took a percentage off the bill.

As we were sitting on the water, beautiful weather, beautiful views, I mention the same lady and her son having and a desert and how sweet that was, just to see a son and mom sharing a desert. He thought I was nuts. I got up walked over to the table and said to them, How beautiful it was to see her and her son enjoying time together and sharing a desert. It was her sons 40th Birthday. Now she post stroke 8 years and can not speak, so they communicate through text on their phones. But you could see the love that her son had for her and how special this moment was for him for he wasn’t sure how long she would be here. We chatted for a few minutes and she would text me on her phone and I would read it. She thanked for the chair and coming to the table and told me I was beautiful. Well, I don’t know about that part, my acquaintance refused to come to the table and she pointing to him, her son said some times she thinks she knows people or remembers them. He refused. I wished him a happy birthday and I went back t my own table. He told me I was going to get myself killed that way, although I know people would maybe think it was strange that I try to make people smile, they was at no time a danger to myself or anyone for that matter.

I asked him to breath the fresh air, pointed out beautiful flowers, the uniqueness of the restaurant, he was still hung up on the butter on his pants, $20.00 Kirkland brand, not like a rare French jean that cost hundreds of dollars, they offered to dry clean them, they went their way to make it right but that enough. I told him how beautiful that mother and son were, again he thought I was crazy. So I closed my eyes and I envisioned, life through his eyes, every flower un noticed, the smell of the water gone, the breeze disappeared, this couple wasn’t there, I pictured everything black and grey and thinking of being afraid of everyone, because they are all out to get you, cause you harm. He had every name for every nationality. They were taking the world and he could protect himself by never leaving his home.

I opened my eyes and the beauty was back, his world made me sad, sad for him, scared for him, no joy, no friends, no life, and it’s all been created by himself. My last statement to him with tears my eyes, I said “I can’t imagine living the way you do, I have tried to be your friend, tried to help you see beauty, appreciate your life, your gifts and you still choose to see the world in darkness. I choose to see the beauty, Sure I have been dealt some yucky cards, and there are times where I have cried myself to sleep from pain in my legs, but I still in my dreams see beauty and when I am awake I see beauty and that’s a choice, I see beauty in everything, every little child, every flower, I see beauty in senior citizens and their knowledge and what there gifts are, We all have a gift and that our purpose, but you will not see let alone share your gift because you to busy being bitter and angry.

He turned on me, his eyes changed color to black , I had never experienced that in my life, it was like another person inside, ready to crack, explode over what??? Butter??? and he began to yell at me in a voice that not his, he reminded me of Jack Nicolson in the Shinning.telling me the world was after him, he had nothing to loosed if he had to shoot them. I got up from the table and said “I have tried to help you” But you don’t want it, you like the world you live in, your safe there. You will spend the remaining years of your life alone and it wasn’t the world that did this to you, it was you that created this world. ” I can’t help you” “I cant be your friend” I tried and I am sorry if I failed you. “But you are unhealthy for me” and now You have scared me, like never before. I had never felt that fear and I think it was the guns that gave me that fear and his change in personality, so quickly, so scary.

So to me lesson learned, I can’t fix everyone, nor is it my job, my energy needs to be spent on my own health and helping people that wanted to be helped. He looked at me with hatred and his black eyes and I walked away.

I also have to the thought of what he might do to himself or someone else because It’s not my job! I will never hear or fear from him again, that’s ok, I know I tried to help him. I also did what I needed to do to get out of that situation and to try to protect society.


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July is Hemochromatosis awareness month.

July is Hemochromatosis awareness month. A hereditary disorder of metabolism involving the deposition of iron- containing pigments in the tissues that is characterized especially by joint or abdominal pain, weakness, fatigue and that may lead to bronzing of the skin, arthritis, diabetes, cirrhosis or heart disease if untreated.

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Top Harmful Skin Care Ingredients.

Fragrance: Avoid all fragrance unless its from a natural source, such as essential oils.

Formaldehyde or formaldehyde releasers (quaternium-15m – diazolidinyl urea, DMDM hydantioin, bronopol, or imidazolidinyl urea) Known carcinogen and irritant found in nail products, hair straighteners, false eye lash adhesives and some shampoos.

Mineral oil and petroleum also called petrolatum, petroleum jelly and paraffin oil. These chemicals have been linked with cancer.

Parabens (propyl, isopropyl, butyl and isobutyl, used in personal care products as preservatives, parabons have been found in breast tumor tissues and have a estrogenic activity.

Ethanolamines (diethanolamine DHEA monoethanolamine MEA and triethanolamine TEA, linked with cancer.

Oxybenzone (benzophenone) octinoxare and homosalate, found mostly in sunscreen, lip balms, and other products with SPF, Oxybenzone was found in urine of 97 percent of people tested, so we know it Is easily absorbed, studies also show oxybenzone can build up in fatty tissues and is linked to allergic reactions.

Hydropquinone (or tocopheryl acetate)and other skin lighteners, this chemical has been linked to skin cancer, there are found in certain chemicals, moisturizers, they also can carry mercury

Butylated hydroxyanisole (BHA) used as a preservative in personal care products and are considered to humans as carcinogen’s, and hormone receptor.

Trisclosan and Triclocarban, used as antimibrobial agents in person care products such as soaps. CDC found 75% of 75% of urine from humans. This is due to the widespread to the antimicrobial cleaning products have been linked to hormone disruption development of antibacterial resistance and environmental concerns.

Coal tar ingredient’s(including aminophenol, diaminobenzene and Ignore, used in creams, ointments, soaps and shampoos and is used to treat itchy scaly skin. they are derived from tar, a known carcinogen.

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Low Potassium can be dangerous!

I myself have been suffering from low Potassium, from consistent Diarrhea do to my Autonomic Dysfunction, Every time I have been hospitalized, my Potassium is dangerously low, but they would give it to my IV, also drink the awful drink and tell me to eat bananas. I didn’t understand that part of my drop attacks, head pain, and paralysis was caused by Potassium. Now with all my hospital stays, don’t ya think one Doctor would say, you can’t walk because you have critically low potassium, your throat is paralyzing because of your potassium. Instead they just send me on my way. So I contacted my Doctor at Stanford and we need to talk about the seriousness of your potassium. Have a great 4th of July. So a new Prescription of Potassium is called into the pharmacy so I can get my levels up and now that I recognize what’s happening, I am more aware. I didn’t realize how dangerous low Potassium was. So I researched it myself and here Is a little information for low Potassium. and the results can be permanent.


When a person gets methylation going, even only partially, the single most dangerous side effect is dropping potassium. In the absence of kidney damage which people usually know about and certain drugs that cause the potassium to accumulate, low potassium is the odds on favorite after staerting methylation. As methylation starts up, no ifs ands or buts typically, in a day or less with the active protocol, when those symptoms hit on the 3rd day typically or a little later, it’s virtually always potassium. This can get dangerous, how quickly is the only question. I have had enough disturbing communications in the past couple of weeks to issue this repeating the warnings.

From Pubmed –

Potassium – low; Low blood potassium

Last reviewed: May 29, 2011.

Hypokalemia is a lower-than-normal amount of potassium in the blood.

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

Potassium is needed for cells, especially nerve and muscle cells, to function properly. You get potassium through food. The kidneys remove excess potassium in the urine to keep a proper balance of the mineral in the body.

Hypokalemia is a metabolic disorder that occurs when the level of potassium in the blood drops too low.

Possible causes of hypokalemia include:
Antibiotics (penicillin, nafcillin, carbenicillin, gentamicin, amphotericin B, foscarnet)

Diarrhea (including the use of too many laxatives, which can cause diarrhea)

Diseases that affect the kidneys’ ability to retain potassium (Liddle syndrome, Cushing syndrome, hyperaldosteronism, Bartter syndrome, Fanconi syndrome)

Diuretic medications, which can cause excess urination

Eating disorders (such as bulimia)

Eating large amounts of licorice or using products such as herbal teas and chewing tobaccos that contain licorice made with glycyrrhetinic acid (this substance is no longer used in licorice made in the United States)

Magnesium deficiency




A small drop in potassium usually doesn’t cause symptoms. However, a big drop in the level can be life threatening.
Symptoms of hypokalemia include:
Abnormal heart rhythms (dysrhythmias), especially in people with heart disease



Muscle damage (rhabdomyolysis)

Muscle weakness or spasms

Paralysis (which can include the lungs)

Signs and tests

Your health care provider will take a sample of your blood to check potassium levels.

Other tests might include:
Arterial blood gas

Basic or comprehensive metabolic panel

Electrocardiogram (ECG)

Blood tests to check glucose, magnesium, calcium, sodium, phosphorous, thyroxine, and aldosterone levels


Mild hypokalemia can be treated by taking potassium supplements by mouth. Persons with more severe cases may need to get potassium through a vein (intravenously).

If you need to use diuretics, your doctor may switch you to a form that keeps potassium in the body (such as triamterene, amiloride, or spironolactone).

One type of hypokalemia that causes paralysis occurs when there is too much thyroid hormone in the blood (thyrotoxic periodic paralysis). Treatment lowers the thyroid hormone level, and raises the potassium level in the blood.

Expectations (prognosis)

Taking potassium supplements can usually correct the problem. In severe cases, without proper treatment a severe drop in potassium levels can lead to serious heart rhythm problems that can be fatal.


In severe cases, patients can develop paralysis that can be life threatening. Hypokalemia also can lead to dangerous irregular heartbeat. Over time, lack of potassium can lead to kidney damage (hypokalemic nephropathy).

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Bad News for Diet Soda Lovers by AARP

Bad News for Diet Soda Lovers
Study links artificially sweetened drinks with higher risk of stroke and dementia
by Shelley Emling, AARP, April 21, 2017|Comments: 0

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You might think drinking sugar-free diet soda is better for you than regular soda, which is packed with sugar. After all, experts have been sounding alarm bells for years about the dangers of consuming excessive amounts of sugar, which has been associated with obesity and a litany of health problems.
But new research published in the American Heart Association’s journal Stroke finds that the artificial sweeteners used in diet drinks are also a cause for concern, as they have been linked to a greater risk of stroke and dementia.
The April 2017 study involved 2,888 adults older than 45 and 1,484 adults older than 60. Researchers asked the participants to answer questions about their eating and drinking habits at three separate points during a seven-year period. Then, for the next 10 years, they kept tabs on the participants, recording which of them suffered a stroke or developed dementia.
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In the end, researchers learned that those who drank at least one artificially sweetened drink per day were nearly three times more likely to have a stroke or develop dementia compared to those who drank ess than one a week. Their findings held up even after adjusting for other factors such as age, gender, calorie intake, diet quality, physical activity and the presence of genetic risk factors for Alzheimer’s disease.
The data collected did not distinguish between the types of artificial sweeteners used in the drinks.
Although lead researcher Matthew Pase of the Boston University School of Medicine acknowledged that the findings showed only a correlation — and not causation — he said they do provide yet one more piece of evidence that diet drinks are not as healthy an alternative to sugary drinks as many people think.
“We recommend that people drink water on a regular basis instead of sugary or artificially sweetened beverages,” he said in a statement.
Pase added that the study shows a need to direct more research to this area, given how often people drink artificially sweetened beverages.
Responding to the new study, the American Beverage Association released a statement saying that low-calorie sweeteners found in beverages have been proven safe by worldwide government safety authorities.
“The FDA, World Health Organization, European Food Safety Authority and others have extensively reviewed low-calorie sweeteners and have all reached the same conclusion — they are safe for consumption,” the statement said. “While we respect the mission of these organizations to help prevent conditions like stroke and dementia, the authors of this study acknowledge that their conclusions do not — and cannot — prove cause and effect.”
Even so, you might want to think twice before gulping down diet soda. A 2015 study of adults 65 and older found that those who drank diet soda daily gained more weight than those who never drank it. Still another previous study found that diet soda could disrupt gut bacteria, leading to glucose intolerance in some people and raising the risk for type 2 diabetes

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Join a mentoring Program.

After having a stroke or any major health issue, there tends to be a lack of empathy, sympathy, compassion and understanding of your struggles you go through during your recovery. Jane Crane ha a stroke, she expressed her feelings regarding her fear of her future. Jane was invited by the Anne Arundel Medical Center in MD, where her outpatient rehabilitation program had been located. Jane has recommended to begin a mentoring program for patients, she did attend some training, Hearing others experiences from the same illness makes you feel less alone, understands fear and other emotions that go along with illness.

The Christopher & Dana Reeve foundation for example, offers national certification program with video conference training sessions, MedStar National rehabilitation Network in Washington, DC offers programs for traumatic brain injury (TBI and stroke patients. The University of Michigan medical center with offers several programs for neurologic conditions, created a training tool kit for other mentoring programs to use.

To Join a mentoring program contact your local hospital, check with your Dr’s staff about a peer mentoring programs related to your conditions. The National Multiple Sclerosis Society offers a newly diagnosed mentor program. To sign up and get more information call 800-344-4867. To contact the Christopher Reeve foundation ( There program deals with any condition that impacts illness.

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Supporting people with invisible illnesses