After talking to a dear friend of mine that is terminal, I asked him how he was? I didn’t mean health wise, but mentally, He said he was planning his funeral that afternoon and that hit me like a ton of bricks! At first I was thinking No you can’t plan your own funeral, it’s not your time yet, but he feels his time is coming quicker and quicker. This is a man that was responsible for saving my dad’s life, a man who has cared for me as a patient and as a friend and even called me his daughter. I just couldn’t grasp planning your own funeral, I didn’t think this man that idolized could really be dying. So I thought about it. How do you plan your own funeral? I guess it is your way of being honored how you want to be honored not how others want to say goodbye. How do you pick out your clothing? For me personally I don’t want my kids or close family to see me once I have died, so that just one part of the funeral, What kind of service do you want? Do you want a party? Do you want a celebration of life? Cremation vs burial, do you want flowers or donations made to a non profit. I guess when we die, ew hoe our families will make the right choices for you. but is that really how you want to exist this world, on someone else’s terms. I guess that’s a question only you can answer. So although heartbroken for my dear friend, I need to honor him, his wishes and just be there for him. I hope I don’t have to make these decisions sooner than later, but maybe its good to have it all written out before the time comes.
So I leave you with this, It may not be your time, If you have specific wishes maybe you should write them out to leave this world the way you want to.