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My experience with addiction.

I have never been addicted myself, but anyone in your family that is addicted, well the entire family becomes a part of that addiction. It’s easy to enable addicts, because it’s harder to say “Yes” than no.

From a parents point of view, I tried to do everything right, Quit my high paying job to work at a office so I could be a part of the class room, boyscouts and be at home with my kids, I had a baby monitor under their beds so I could hear if they were sneaking out. I trusted my children, until they gave me reason not to. But from someone who never was around drugs, I didn’t know what to look for. I noticed going through baggies and Tin foil a lot, but my one son put single servings into baggies trying to loose weight, tin foil he made swords out of with plenty of Duct tape. But again That was my one son, I never noticed smells, or drugs, my son refused to take his ADHD meds because he didn’t like the way it made him feel, so I would never think of anything, but his interest in school was changing, I asked his school counselor to help, the principle and no help. I Noticed his friends changed, he was looking way thin, I didn’t realize he could sneak out out the screen window and I wouldn’t hear a thing, he started getting edgy, mean, irresponsible, wouldn’t do his chores, being mean to his brother. Yelling at me. I went and bought a drug test, feeling guilty that I would think such a thing and it was negative. I was wrong. Or was I?

The attitude slowly getting worse, nasty mouth, and actually cornered me up the wall and called me the lovely b word. I slapped him which I had never done before and took him down to the ground, mind you he’s 6″4 and I 5″4 he slapped me back and I ran out of the room and my younger son and I ran and hid, Couldn’t find my phone. So I made him take another test. Negative. I was so relieved, until I read the instructions of how they can cheat their test, he had a little bottle of bleach under the sink he could put in there. Well Made him take another in the other bathroom and it was positive for Pot. I called to get him into counseling the next morning. He became even more violent, and every test done with nothing in the room is now Negative, I didn’t know what synthetic urine is, or stuff the head shops sell to make your urine negative. When I figured that out, then he used his brothers urine. So I kicked him out. Those were the rules of my house, My little one and I were afraid of him. I kept his phone on because I needed to know he could reach me.

This was the hardest thing I had ever done, Not knowing who, where he was, knowing if he had food. I didn’t sleep for 3 years waiting for the call that he had been found dead. But we continued counseling and I didn’t recognize who my son was. This was not the son I raised. I had to let go, but he still knew I was there and he could come home if he chose to get help. Well, he did, He finally wanted to help, has been clean for 4 years, got his high school diploma, has his own place, car, good job.

My mind goes back to where we were 4 years ago, and I thank god he is still with me, He thanks me for kicking him out and understands and says he would be dead if I hadn’t. My point is as parents we need to be educated, Pot isn’t just Pot anymore, its filled with other more addictive stuff in it. Meth is not only smoked,it comes in pill form, capsules, you have to know your kids friends, you have to not enable them. They must have rules. There are places that help your kids and influence your kids to cover up their addiction. The court systems just want them out of the system, the court system wasn’t a help, the schools don’t care. Its the parents responsibility. Please educate yourself and beware of what your children are doing.

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25 Secrets of People with chronic Illness

25 Secrets of People With Chronic Illnesses
Elisabeth Brentano By Elisabeth Brentano Feb 11, 2016
This article discusses aGeneral topic in our community

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Nearly 133 million Americans have some sort of chronic illness, and that number is expected to reach 157 million by 2020, according to data on the Invisible Illness Week website.

From exhaustion to migraines to fatigue, many chronic illness symptoms aren’t visible to the naked eye, which makes them even more difficult to diagnose — and understand.

With a growing number of people affected by chronic illnesses like fibromyalgia, arthritis, Lyme disease, Crohn’s disease and diabetes and more, it’s important to both raise awareness and let others know how to respond to the needs of individuals living with these conditions.

So we asked readers in our Facebook community what truths about chronic illness they wish others understood. Here’s what they had to say:

1. “Some days you can function, some you can’t.” —Amber Wandmaker

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2. “I’m not lazy. I’m in pain, exhausted and quite possibly depressed because I feel useless and cannot make others understand what I go through on a daily basis.” —Jodie Farber Brubacher

3. “It’s not in my head.” —Christine Olson Smith

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4. “When I’m pushing through… I’m really pushing myself too hard.” —Debra Declue

5. “Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not real.” —Rhonda Miller-Solomon

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6. “Accepting the fact that I will never get better is what has allowed me to live my life and continue to work towards my goals without waiting to ‘get better.’” —Joan Elizabeth

7. “A good day for people with chronic pain… is often just ‘less of a bad day.’” —Ann Webb Bradford

8. “Being immune compromised/suppressed isn’t a game; it’s dangerous. When I say I can’t get sick, I’m not being paranoid; I’m being careful. Life’s no good when you’re dead!” —Arianna Nyswonger

9. “I’ve become an expert on hiding my pain from everyone.” —Beth Cox Harrell

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10. “Chronic illness often comes in multiple versions; treating one can mean making another one worse.” —Zoann Murphy

11. “I can’t remember what ‘well’ feels like.” —Sandra Williams

12. “Good can change to bad in a matter of minutes. There are good days and bad days, but there are also good hours and bad hours, good minutes and bad minutes. Chronic illness does not see or understand time.” —Deanna Guarino-Embry

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13. “There’s no such thing as ‘too young;’ we can’t just show out bodies ID and tell the illness to come back in 10-20 years!” —Jen Andrew

14. “It doesn’t get better. It is this way. Every day. Forever. If you’re in my life, please don’t ask me if I’m feeling ‘better’ today.” —Wendy Rose

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15. “We shouldn’t be treated like drug addicts or hypochondriacs and denied the care we truly need.” —Amy Brandborg

16. “I live a double life. What you see when I am at work: someone who is well put together, always dependable, smiling, will always tell you she is doing fine. My reality: I’m a mess, in so much pain, my smiles are forced, sometimes I have to find a quiet place to cry. But it’s much easier for me to fake it because coworkers don’t want to hear my truth day after day.” —Amber Weller

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17. “A ‘good attitude’ doesn’t take away pain or improve mobility. I am still human and I will have days when I just can’t drum up that ‘good attitude.’” —Vicki Gomes Petilli

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18. “I didn’t do this to myself. I didn’t not pray hard enough or believe hard enough. I didn’t not eat well enough or not exercise enough.” —Barb Silvestro

19. “It hurts to be forgotten because we have said no to so many events, parties, family gatherings, shopping trips, etc. I want them to still ask just so I know they are still thinking of me.” —Victoria Sinclair

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20. “There is no magic cure. I don’t want to be sick, but this is my reality. I can’t wish it away or cleanse it away or take supplements because your sister’s boyfriend’s mother did.” —Christina Marroquin-Mauricio

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21. “People don’t choose to feel horrible every day and lose the person they used to be.” –Caitlin Hoechst

22. “What I can do one day I might not be able to do the next.” —Becky Rider

23. “I’m not making it up. If I wanted to fake an illness, I would choose something that people would believe!” —Faith Merryn

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24. “My downtime doesn’t mean I’m depressed or isolating. It’s a time for me to heal and recharge.” —Kate Wilhelmi

25. “My illness does not define me, my dreams or who I am!” —Judy Fox Berryan

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What’s one truth about chronic illness you wish others understood? Let us know in the comments below. And be sure to visit our new Facebook page, Chronic Illness on The Mighty.

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